We surveyed singles and discovered that fourteen percent said they would like to read a book about how to market themselves in order to find success in dating. Another seventeen percent said that they would like to read a book to learn the best things to say when you're approaching someone... So we wrote one. Here are some tips to get you started.
1. Be genuine. Everyone wants to meet someone who is his/her authentic self. We've all met those people who come off as actors. You spend so much time wondering if the person is telling the truth that you never get the chance to know the real person. Clearly, trying to impress doesn't work. Instead, be your already impressive self and smile. A smile goes a long way.
2. Talk to people, not at them. Sometimes, our nerves get the best of us and we end up talking too much about ourselves. When you are making conversation with someone new make sure to pause and give him/her the opportunity to respond to what you've said. You don't want to end up giving a speech. This will help the person you are talking to see what a truly great conversationalist you are. In my experience with IJL clients, one of the most common things I hear is "He/she didn't ask anything about me"/ Be sure to ask questions and show interest in what the other person has to say!
