Everyone faces rejection once in a while! It's a part of putting yourself out there. Just like in sales, every "no" brings you closer to a "yes". Don't wallow in self pity or feel discouraged. Think about the other opportunities you'll have and move forward!
If someone you've been talking to turns you down, just be gracious. You'll feel great about yourself. Let him/her know that you enjoyed chatting. Whatever you do, don't let a few rejections ruin your enthusiasm for dating. It's all about timing! Also, you want to carry a positive attitude forward to the next person who is coming along. People can sense negativity a mile away and you don't want to automatically assume you'll be rejected.
Here's a lesson in always taking a risk:
Sometimes IJL clients have let small hiccups get in the way of creating a great dynamic with someone. For example, two clients had gone out on a date and when I got the feedback from both people about how things went I heard two similar stories. The man told me that he really liked the woman. He said that she was bright, down to earth, funny and successful. Then, when asked if they exchanged information he said "No, I don't think she wanted to".
In my experience, "I don't think she wanted to" usually means he was too scared to ask her and find out.
Once I got the woman's feedback, it went like this: "He was really nice! We had a lot in common. We laughed and had a wonderful lunch together."
Then, when I asked if they had exchanged information she said, "It was really odd. I thought things were going great but I don't think he wanted to go out again."
Two people went out, liked each other equally, but no one made a move. Had one of them spoken up and taken the risk of possibly being rejected, they would have realized they both wanted to see each other again.
The point is, don't let self consciousness get in your way. This same rule applies when you are just introducing yourself to someone new. Don't let your last "No thanks" get in the way of hearing "Absolutely, give me a call!"
