Have you ever been out on a couple of dates with someone and THEN found out that they had been married before? A little surprising for sure. Like finding out that at the starting point that your 5K is really a 10k maybe. But you’re heart’s already in it, you’ve been training and you’re there to run the race. So at this stage of the game, does it really matter?
We at It’s Just Lunch® wanted to find out from both men and women if this kind of revelation was really a RED FLAG situation or not, so we decided to take a poll.
Almost 42% of single men and women said that the person being married before was a cautionary sign, but they would allow their date to explain, when they were comfortable.
36% of the singles we surveyed said that their date being married before was a good thing; because they had been married or been in a long-term relationship before, and someone who had been married could relate to their experience.
Interestingly enough, only 3.7% put on the brakes and pulled the fire alarm claiming that “something wasn’t right” and this was a genuine RED FLAG moment.
So to sum it all up? Maybe in this day and age there are more opportunities to connect with people who have shared the same vulnerabilities in dating, romance, and love that you have had. And that shared experience, can be a foundation for building something new and improved together.