In honor of 4th of July, It's Just Lunch wanted to take a moment to recognize the role independence plays in relationships. While independence is certainly an attractive character trait sought after by many professional singles looking for love and romance, it's important to realize that too much or too little of it can be detrimental to your chances of finding the kind of relationship every working professional seeks.
Singles who exhibit too much independence tend to radiate an energy that is off putting to potential suitors, especially when they make comments about not needing a relationship to be happy. Though it is true that no single should define their happiness by their relationship status, it is completely okay to want, not need, a relationship for the right reasons--to add more value to your life and to maximize your existing happiness with who you are and where you're heading in life.
On the flip side, singles with too little independence tend to exhibit a needy vibe, which can be just as off putting as the I-don't-need-anyone-but-me vibe. Of course, it is nice to feel needed in a relationship, but it does more harm than good when you depend on your relationship far too much to validate your self or sense of worth.
This 4th of July, we want you to treasure the kind of independence-in yourself and the kind of partner you want to meet-that holds the key to a happy, healthy and long-lasting relationship. What we are talking about is mutual independence, otherwise known as interdependence. When two equally independent individuals come together and form an alliance, they create a true partnership that allows them to be independent individuals within their partnership without having to compromise their values or identities.
Professional singles are independent by nature, so the challenge for them is finding someone on their same level. They're smart enough to know that a healthy, interdependent relationship is worth the wait.Follow It's Just Lunch on Facebook.