A new dating app made for Google Glass made such a splash on the market that it’s now shifted directions from “Sex with Glass” to “Glance” within the span of a few months after news of the iPhone app went viral. Glance gives one the ability to see what their partner can see and watch from numerous angles while having sex. The idea behind Glance is an evolving one for its founders, giving users the opportunity to capture and view two different perspectives side by side and change the way they experience something as personal as sex… or perhaps as awkward as a first date if you were to ask a matchmaker.
As matchmakers and dating specialists, we couldn’t help but wonder about the implications this kind of technology might have for singles. What would it be like using this app while blind dating? Would it make the date more or less awkward? What if singles starting using it as a feedback tool for becoming better at dating? We may not have all the answers to these questions since this app is still pretty new and still finding its place in the market, but what the professional matchmakers at It’s Just Lunch do have is some amazing insight on the most common dating blunders every single secretly hopes goes unnoticed during a first date.
5 Things You Secretly Hope Your Date Won’t Notice
Ask any matchmaker and she’ll tell you that almost every single she works gets incredibly nervous right before a first date. Most singles secretly hope that their date won’t pick up on how awkward or nervous they feel on the date. Know that it’s completely normal and that chances are your date is just as nervous as you, if not more. Accept this as reality and realize that it’s only awkward for the first few minutes until you get more acquainted. Sometimes, people need a few minutes to warm up to new people, especially if they are the shy or introverted type. Let’s face it, meeting and trying to get to know someone for the first time is not an easy thing. With or without the help of technology, nobody wants their date noticing how nervous they might be during the date.
Another thing singles secretly hope their date won’t ever notice is how over-prepared for they might be for their date. Some professionals make the mistake of preparing too much for a blind date. This is especially the case for professional singles with a tendency to do an online search of their date before meeting them in person. These singles rehearse exactly what they want to talk about or how they are going to say certain things, and sometimes it can come off as sounding fake and over-prepared. It is okay to have a few talking points in mind you want to talk about or ask your date, but it’s not okay to sound like you’re reading from a script. If you really want to prepare for your date, make sure to confirm your date plans in advance in case there’s an unforeseen scheduling conflict and refrain from Googling your date’s name, phone number or email address in search of talking points. Instead, ask your matchmaker about your date’s interests and browse local or national headlines for current event topics you can piggyback off of for value-added dating conversations.
Have you ever been tempted to cancel a date when a huge pimple shows up on your face the morning of a first date? Or spilled coffee on your shirt during lunch with no change of clothes or time to go home before a date? Whether it’s these minor flaws like these, an uncomfortable outfit or a bad hair day, many singles quickly become self-conscious about what they look like to their dates. While many singles would be mortified if they could see what their dates sees when they look at them, our matchmakers are here to tell you that your date will probably not notice because they’re too focused on how they are being perceived by you. In fact, you might even be surprised over what your date notices about you that you might not even be aware of at all. Matchmakers warn singles to avoid drawing attention to their flaws as it will only magnify them for the date who wouldn’t have noticed at all until you pointed it out or brought it up.
Manners, or dating etiquette, is another concern that many matchmakers hear from lots of professional singles, particularly among the women with regards to the way men present themselves. Many people get so used to eating comfortably in their home or around their close friends and family, it slips their mind that their date is probably watching their every move. They forget to eat or act properly in front of people they do not know. Singles would be mortified to watch themselves shove food into their mouths in front of their blind date because they weren’t mindful of basic manners. If you really want to show how classy you are at dinner, go to YouTube, type “dining etiquette” in the search bar and watch a few of the videos that come up for tips on how to present yourself. This will not only be good for you on a date, but it will also be good to know just in case you have a big meeting with a high-profile client or very important person within your company or industry.
Do you have a tendency to fidget under pressure or when you’re feeling awkward or don’t know what to do with your hands? Well, you aren’t the only one. It’s actually very common. Many singles tend to fidget during a blind date if they feel uncomfortable. They wouldn’t want to see what their date could see if their hands were shaking, playing with their hair or biting their nails out of nervousness. Fidgeting is a sign that one is not relaxed and possibly wants to leave that date as soon as possible. Being uncomfortable during a blind date can be a hard thing to hide and many would be horrified to watch themselves fidget away in front of their date. Try to relax the best you can and be aware of your body language. When you catch yourself fidgeting, trying pinching yourself as a signal to the rest of your body to cut it out.
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