Confidence is sexy! A dash of self-confidence creates the perfect recipe for a positive first impression, whether it is a first date or networking community event. People who glow with a bright, friendly attitude tend to attract an abundance of people who want to meet them.
The key to gaining self-confidence is to recognize and appreciate what's great about you and accept what's not so great. We all have strengths and weaknesses. If you love and accept who you are, others will too.
Try these three things to boost your confidence in time for your next date:
1) Don't Compare Yourself to Others
Stop putting yourself up against others as a way of measuring your desirability. Know that you are a hot ticket in your own right, with your own unique abilities and qualities. Something that turns off one person will spark romance in another. Don't waste your time with people who don't see what it is you have to offer. When you like who you are, people will be naturally drawn to you.
2) Turn to Your Network for Your Net Worth
Surround yourself with people who treat you with love and respect. Weed out the ones who are overly negative or critical. Create a positive environment.
3) Date More!
The more exposure you have to the dating experience, the easier it gets. As you handle all the different situations and come in contact with different people, it will reinforce your positive qualities. You will also gain confidence in your ability to meet, mingle and engage with new people.
But Avoid Crossing the Fine Line into Cockiness
There's a fine line between "Oh, he's interesting . . ." and "What an arrogant, self-absorbed jerk!" How does this happen? A few symptoms of crossing into cocky country include one-upping conversation habits, interrupting your date to get your words in and treating others with disrespect. Identifying when you veer off the confidence course will give you the chance to present yourself as charming and confident, not annoying and arrogant.
This post originally appeared on the Vancouver It's Just Lunch blog.
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