Here's the deal, ladies—when on the dating scene, we can be our own worst enemy. We complicate relationships and sabotage them before they even get off the ground! Read on to learn the mistakes women frequently encounter on their quest to meet The One.
Moving Too Quickly. After a promising first date, it's natural to feel excited about the possibilities. But don't start flipping through bridal magazines just yet. In fact, your enthusiasm for your burgeoning relationship could inadvertently scare him off! Early on it's best to show restraint and keep your feelings in check. Women often get frustrated at this stage—we're falling in love and want to express it! But although you're getting to know him, there's still a lot you don't know. Look at it this way—if you unleash too much emotion too soon, he'll wonder, "Does she really like me? Or is she just glad to have a guy—any guy—around? And frankly, that's a reasonable question on his part.
Dating Tip: Think of your new relationship as a movie. Sit back and watch it play out—let things evolve naturally. Don't project! When we project what we hope will happen, we can't see what actually is happening.
Overanalyzing. Women love nothing more than some good girl talk! And what do we typically talk about? Guys, of course! We dish, dissect, and analyze our relationships ad nauseum. Most of it's harmless, of course. But we can get into trouble when nit-picking situations and making something out of nothing. Furthermore, for some reason, we tend to ask our girlfriends to help us figure out our boyfriends. Does that really make sense?
Dating Tip: Cut out the middle-man (or in this case, middle-woman) when trying to discern what your new guy is thinking. Instead of asking your girlfriends to decipher his last text, see what your brother, cousin, or dad has to say. Let the men in your life provide insight into the male psyche.
Being Too Available. Men like a challenge. Don't deny them the fun of pursuing you! We all value things we have to work for, so it behooves women not to appear overly available early in the relationship. Yes, you want to be authentic. No, you don't want to play games. But smart women live busy, full, fantastic lives. So honestly, we can't be very available to a guy we've just met!
Dating Tip: Live your life to the fullest! Consume yourself with your passions, goals, and dreams. Carving out space in your schedule for your new guy will communicate two things—1) you've got a super busy fabulous life and 2) you like him enough to make time for him!
Listen, ladies! You have so much to offer! Put your best foot forward and give your new relationship a strong chance of success by following the tips listed above. Let the connection develop slowly, don't over-think it, and no matter how much you're into him, stay fully "into" your own life!