Dating & Technology

Can Facebook Really Help Matchmakers Play Cupid?

Professional matchmakers are experimenting with a new way of finding you a match by using Facebook's Graph Search, a new feature that makes it easier for users to find something or someone that match your specific criteria. For example, you can type in "singles who leave nearby" or "singles who work nearby" to get a results page filled with romantic prospects within your social sphere that you may not have considered. You can modify your search to singles who live in a specific area or professional singles who work for a specific company. You can even extend your search to include your friends of friends, ya know, so you can casually "bump" into someone you think is you cute the next time your mutual friend invites you out to a social event.

According to a recent survey conducted by It's Just Lunch about relationships and technology, it is not at all uncommon for people to use Facebook for an informal, pre-date background check. Professional singles are even using Facebook post-date to verify information received during a date. In a world of online dating, deception is still a major concern for those committed to finding love which is why singles are scoping their dates out online. 

However, there is one major flaw in using Facebook for verifying someone's relationship status, for example. Some people who are "in a relationship" may show up "single" if they did not bother to change their relationship status, or don't believe in changing their relationship status unless someone "puts a ring on it." This raises an interesting yet entirely different question: At what point during a relationship does it become "Facebook official"?

In case you were wondering, It's Just Lunch does not use Graph Search to find matches for its clients and instead uses its own database of singles. Besides, most professional singles never prefer to keep their relationships strictly offline and seldem, if not never, interact with a romantic interest via social media.

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Google Glasses for Dating Singles

Would you think twice before going on a first date with someone knowing they were wearing a pair of Google glasses? Maybe you should watch this short first date video caputred by a guy wearing Goolge glasses. He builds instant rapport with his date by using the technology to search for her online and find some common ground, in this case, dogs. It definitely helps him get the conversation going. Before you know it, he's talking about Downtown Abbey while looking it up on IMDb. But the date is suddently cut short from intel received by an unlikely source. Is this type of technology in dating a huge benefit for professional singles or a huge distraction?

Are Singles Really Conducting First Date Research Online?

Are you being Googled before or after your first date? You better believe it. In fact, it's almost becoming standard practice now. It's Just Lunch learned that an overwhelming 59.5% of singles admitted to conducting online research on someone they had plans to go on a date with in the near future. Most singles (45.5%) wait until after the first date to research a potential partner but there are still 26.5% of singles who do it before even agreeing to a first date. Another 31.7% of singles surveyed admitted to Googling a potential partner before the first date, but they also admitted they would not cancel a date because of something they found online.

If any of this should come as a surprise to you, well it shouldn’t given how easy it is to search for anything you want with the click of a button. Do you know what comes up in search results when people are searching for you? One way to find out is to Google yourself. Some of the most common search terms being used to learn more about you include your full name, your screen name, your email address and even your phone number if any of these items have been exchanged at any point in time.

There are many pros and cons to researching someone online before a first date. Just make sure you do so with caution, keeping in mind that someone could be very well be looking you up online too. You can’t find out everything about a person online as the Internet is filled with lots of misinformation and duplicate names referring to someone completely different. As in all aspects of dating, take your time and get to know someone offline through a series of interactions you believe will ultimately reveal a person’s true character.


Calling vs Texting: Why Singles Text First Despite Their Preference to Call

Technology has no doubt greatly shifted the landscape of dating as we know it. In fact, texting has become the new first step in dating. Despite this growing trend, most professionals singles still prefer the old-fashioned way of communicating with someone they are interested in with an actual phone call. But if so many singles prefer calling versus texting, then why are those same singles more likely to text someone first than to call them first despite their preferences?

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In a recent survey, It's Just Lunch asked 2,901 singles about their dating and technology habits. The results revealed that although 72.4% of singles surveyed are more likely to text someone first after swapping numbers compared to 39.9% who are more likely to call first despite the fact that 65.8% of those same singles actually prefer to call compared to 40.9% of singles who prefer to text. It certainly came as no surprise to learn that the younger the single, the higher the preference for texting while the older the single, the higher the preference for calling. Despite the differences in age, most singles all around definitely prefer calling over texting. It’s Just Lunch offers some possible reasons why so many singles are texting first despite their primary preference for calling.

Convenience. For professional singles who lead very busy lives, texting is a matter of convenience because it allows them to multi-task. They can send a text message while they are keeping busy at work, going out to lunch or heading toward the gym. It’s a quick and easy way to start a conversation.

Intimidation. When it comes to shy singles, texting creates a comfortable barrier between themselves and the person they may be too shy to connect with on a personal phone conversation. There’s also less pressure to be witty or quick on your feet when you have time to think before you text.

Fear of Rejection. Some singles, especially the younger generations of singles, are more likely to text someone first after swamping numbers because they can avoid blatant rejection. Getting turned down via text isn’t so bad compared to getting turned down over the phone. Additionally, some singles are easily discouraged by an unanswered or unreturned phone call.

Icebreaker. Other singles use texting as a strategic first move to help break the ice before placing the phone call. The rationale behind the icebreaker text is that it increases the probability of having your phone call answered by re-establishing the initial connection that instigated the phone number swap in the first place.

What about you? Do you prefer calling or texting? Does your actual behaviour reflect that preference? Now that you know more singles prefer calling over texting, how likely are you to change your dating behavior? 

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