Did you know that nearly 1 out of 4 couples meet online? So we're giving you tips from It's Just matchmaker Emily Fry on how to avoid the pitfalls of online dating.
When browsing through profiles be sure to watch out for what Fry calls "yellow" flags, things that might not necessarily be a red flag but still make you pause. "Take those, put them in your back pocket, and see if anything develops from those," says the personal matchmaker. You also want to give the profiles a good read to ensure that the values they listed on the profile match the values of someone you would like to date.
Be careful about what information you share with somone. There are something you just don't want to over share. "At It's Just Lunch, for instance, we don't give out last names, phone numbers or where anybody works," says Fry. If you're online dating, singles may want to follow suit by not giving out that information eiher.
Exchange messages or talk on the phone before deciding to meet someone. It gives you a chance to see if this is someone you really want to meet live and in the flesh. However, Fry says that what you don't want to do is exchange emails for weeks, then talk on the phone for another month. "All you're doing at that point is developing an emotional connection to the person that may or may not be based in reality," she says. At the end of the day, you will never really be sure about what kind of chemistry you'll have until you meet in person.
Meet in a public place once you do agree to meet someone for a first date, but don't do an activity or go to the movies. "Go some place where you can actually talk and get to know each other, just make it low-key," Fry recommends. "At It's Just Lunch, we tend to set up drinks after work during the week, or lunch or brunch on the weekends," she says. "That's what you should do for your online dating as well."
Always have a point of contact. Before you leave for your date, fill someone in on your date details--where you're going, who you're meeting, when you'll be home, etc. If a date is going really well and it progresses at a different menu, let that someone know about your slight change of plans. "It's just better to be safe than sorry, " says the matchmaker for professional singles.
Did you know that Wednesday is the #1 preferred day of the week for a first date? It's low-pressure and gives men a chance to ask women out for the weekend if their first date turns out great. When's the last time you've had a date?