Most daters, when asked about what they're looking for in a potential date/mate, eventually get around to mentioning an age range. It's perfectly normal to want to date someone within a certain range.
For some people, this range might be 5 years older or younger than themselves. For others, they might only want to date people who are older (or younger). And within a specific number of years. Again, these are perfectly natural expectations, based on societal norms and life experience.
But what happens when the numbers lie?
Here are a couple of stories to illustrate what I mean.
Story #1: A small singles mixer at an upscale bar. A group of people are tossed together by the hostess and encouraged to speak. And so they do. Within minutes it becomes clear that there is an odd man out in the group. Someone who seems out of place. Frankly, someone who seems a lot older than the others. And uncomfortable. He eventually removes himself from the awkward situation and the conversation carries on without him.
Later, the hostess tries a bit of matchmaking between the odd man out and one of the women from that group. When said woman mentions that he might be a bit too old for her she is informed that he is, in fact, 3 years younger than her (and was one of the younger people at the mixer).
Story #2: Some of you may recall last week's blog post. A, now, happily married couple shared the story of their It's Just Lunch introduction.
The woman in question was not that enthusiastic, prior to the date. In her words, "I had initially told IJL that he was a bit older than my parameters, but they convinced me he was probably more "youthful" than me, and that they just insisted I meet him."
Yes, it's perfectly natural to have a set age range for your ideal date/mate. But sometimes numbers lie. Some people are much older than their years. And others, much younger. Does that mean that we should ignore age, completely? No. But it's good to remember that age is just a number. And sometimes numbers don't tell the whole story.