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7 Tips to Boost Your Confidence for a First Date

We all know that butterfly-in-the-stomach feeling we get right before a first date. This feeling can be exacerbated for those of us professional singles who have been out of the dating scene for years. But don't be afraid to get back in the saddle and go at it again.

We all have feelings of self-doubt and anxiety, but we also don't want to bring those emotions with us on a first date. So leave those feelings at home and use these 7 tips to help you feel confident so you can actually enjoy your first date.

 Relax and Don't Sweat It!

Try not to let your nerves get the best of you. Try giving yourself 30 minutes to an hour to relax before your date. Try turning on some soft music and meditating. Simply follow your breathing and try to slow your breath rate down. Drink some chamomile tea or some wine. Consider avoiding coffee, which might make you feel even more anxious. If you really feel you need to relax, you could even get a massage, do some calming yoga, or go to a spa prior to your date.

Put Yourself in a Good Mood

Do something that you enjoy. Get your endorphins going. Eat some chocolate. Go for a run. Engage in a favorite hobby. Whatever it is that you enjoy, do it. Lift your spirits. Dress in clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident. If you look and feel your best before your date, you will naturally be more confident.


Be Open to the Dating Experience

Put down your rigid expectations and just be open to the experience. Think of it as an experiment. It might go well, it might not. Relax into this idea and just remain open to possibility. Try not to start thinking about what your date would be like 10 years down the road. Don't take it too seriously. Remember it is just a date. Stay in the moment and enjoy what it offers you.

Be Yourself

As cliche as it might sound, it really is important to just be yourself. Don't try to put on a façade and act like someone you are not. If you want this to go beyond a first date, you will want the person to like you for who you are, not for who you pretended to be. Be honest, open, and confident with who you are. If you and your date have chemistry, great! If not, no worries; he or she is not the only human on the planet.

Focus on Your Strengths Not Your Weaknesses

Don't complain or engage in negative self-talk on your first date. Share your strengths and accomplishments. We all have our weaknesses. We have all made mistakes. But, there's no need to give them all away on a first date. First impressions are everything. Keep the date in a positive light.

Remember, Your Date is Human Too

Remember that the person on the other end is a person too. They have emotions just like you and are most likely, just as nervous. Relax in this acknowledgment. Treat the other person as you would want to be treated and most likely, you'll have a successful evening. Even if you don't work out as lovers, perhaps you will meet a new friend. Each person we meet brings to us a new point of view, a new perspective to see the world. Even if you never meet this person again, there is something he can teach you. Try looking at your date from this perspective and you find it much easier to relax and be confident for the experience.


A genuine smile goes a long way. It's friendly, warm, open, and inviting, Try not to focus so much on the end result of the date, and just be happy to be having the experience. Greet your date with a smile, smile throughout the date, and say goodbye with a smile.

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