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Is Stress Scaring Away Your Relationship Prospects?

If you’re a busy professional who has been single for longer than you’d like to admit, then stress could very well be the culprit. In an article for the Huffington Post, NYC plastic surgeon Robert Tornambe, M.D., wrote that “stress not only affects your mental well-being but also has a direct impact on beauty."


Researchers have actually found that stress makes you less attractive to the opposite sex and even accelerates the aging process bringing on the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. When you’re stressed out all the time, it shows on your face more than you realize.

In an iVillage report, there was a study done on a group of men flipping through images of women who they rated as attractive or not-so-attractive. It turned out that all the women rated as least attracted were the ones that happened to have the highest levels of cortisol, also known as the stress hormone. When researchers hypothesized that women with the highest levels of antibodies (indicating a strong immune system) would be rated as most attractive, it was of no surprise to learn that the men in the study rated women who who younger and of a healthy weight as the most attractive.

What Happens to Your Body When It’s Stressed?

Stress is what happens when your body feels threatened or when it’s sense of balance is disrupted. When your body sense danger, it kicks into overdrive putting you in “fight or flight” mode. Stressed isn’t always bad. In some cases, it can actually save your life, like slamming on the car breaks to avoid rear-ending the car in front of you. But too much stress can actually do you more harm than good.

When stress adds up and goes unmanaged, it can affect your your skin, your hair, your sleep patterns, your digestion, even your gums and teeth. The biggest impact of stress can be seen on your skin. Dr. Tornambe says that the skin renewal process happens every 28 days but slows as we age; stress can slows down that process even further which expedites the aging process. In addition, your body starts creating excess hormone which in turn causes your skin to produce more oil which cause acne breakouts.  Your body’s immune system also becomes weakened which also makes your skin more susceptible to breakouts. And why does your immune system become weak? Because stress also prevents your body from digesting the vitamins and nutrients your body needs to have a strong immune system.

Effectively Manage Stress

As cliche as this may sound, the first step to solving your stress problem is to first admit that you are dealing with stress beyond what you can manage and to identify the things in your life creating so much stress. The next step is to create a plan to minimize or eliminate certain stressors in your life so that it doesn’t ruin your chances for finding love. The last step is to schedule more time for yourself and spend the time doing things that make you happy, even if that means signing up for a dating or matchmaking service so you can start meeting other busy singles like yourself. You might learn a thing or two from some of your dates ;)

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